Dear Amber Ray, here is how to make your polygamous marriage enjoyable

  • We have been treated to online drama by Businessman Jamal Roho Safi’s wives, Amber Ray and Amira.
  • But it is very possible for a polygamous marriage to be peaceful.

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Polygamous marriages can be a sore in the eye, especially when it is more than one woman married to one man.

The African culture, and also the Islamic religion promotes polygamy. In Islam, such marriages are blessed by Allah, and a man is allowed to marry up to 4 wives.

Recently, we have been treated to online drama by Businessman Jamal Roho Safi’s wives, Amber Ray and Amira.

The two have been on an online spat accusing each other of being the reason their marriage is not peaceful.

But it is very possible for a polygamous marriage to be peaceful.

Here are some considerations for a peaceful co-existence in a polygamous marriage;

1. Love can be shared

When you accept the fact that love can be shared, your marriage will still prosper. There is a special, separate bond between the husband and each wife.

If you are the first wife, it doesn’t mean your husband stopped loving you, if so, he would have divorced you. For example, when a mother gets another child, it doesn’t mean they stopped loving the firstborn.

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2. Do not consider the other partner as a rival.

Avoid seeing your co-wife as a rival. If you are sure of your relationship with your husband, you shouldnt feel threatened by the other partner.

Focus on your relationship with your husband without being distracted by the third party.

3.Tackling jealousy

You can learn to tackle jealousy by focusing on what you have.

Do not show a desire to have something just because your co-wife has it, but always be driven by your personal need.

4. Be ready to share time.

Be prepared to share your husband;’s time with the other partner. You can take advantage of the times he is with the other wife to enjoy some me-time.

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