Akothee, the self proclaimed President of single mothers, has set the record straight on what made her and her ex husband Jared get divorced.
According to Akothee, her ex husband was never a violent man contrary to what some people may want to assume.
Akothee said the one time he beat her was because she triggered it.
Taking to her social media account, Akothee penned,
‘MY OWN JARED WAS AND IS STILL A HUMBLE MAN, HE WAS NEVER VIOLENT, HE HAD NEVER BEATEN ME UP IN FRONT OF OUR CHILDREN.
I DON’T REMEMBER WHEN WE ARGUED, WE LIVED IN HARMONY, MOST PEOPLE ADMIRED OUR FAMILY LIFE,YES WE WERE NOT REALLY BROKE BUT WE WERE TRYING.
JARED WAS EARNING A SALARY OF KSH15,000 AS AN ACCOUNTANT, WITH THIS MONEY, WE HAD TO MANAGE OUR 3 DAUGHTERS, AND LIVE THE LIFE WE UNDERSTOOD.
WE ADMIRED PEOPLE DRIVING CARS, JARED USED TO GO ASK FOR HIS FRIENDS CARS TO TAKE US TO CHURCH, I ADMIRED MY HUSBAND DRIVING.’
Akothee added that despite the little they were earning they still managed to get by.
‘I PRAYED TO GOD TO BLESS US WITH A CAR, SO OUR CHILDREN COULD ALSO ENJOY WHAT OTHER CHILDREN ENJOY.OUR CHURCH WAS FULL OF ABLE PEOPLE ,THEIR CHILDREN’S CLOTHES WERE NEW FROM SUPERMARKETS.
JARED AND I WENT TO GIKOMBA AT 5.00 AM, BOUGHT CLOTHES FOR OUR CHILDREN, AND ENOUGH FOOD FOR THE MONTH.
OUR SALARY WAS SMALL, SO WE BUDGETED WITH WHAT WE HAD, WE DIDN’T HAVE A HOUSE GIRL, I WAS FULLY A HOUSE WIFE, VERY ORGANIZED, I WOULD PUMP MY FRIDGE WITH FOOD ENOUGH FOR THE NEXT PAYCHECK.
JARED WOULD BRING FOOD EVERYTIME HE CAME FROM A TRIP, HE KNEW MY WEAKNESS WAS THE KITCHEN, HE NEVER ATE AT THE NEIGHBORS, HE ALWAYS RUSHED HOME FOR LUNCH.’
Like the good wife she was Akothee played her part by ensuring that Jared’s needs were taken care of.
‘I WOULD PREPARE HIS BATHING WATER, AND BY THE TIME HE COMES FROM THE BATHROOM HIS CLOTHES AND SHOES WELL IRONED AND SHOES BRUSHED.
WHEN HE WAS GETTING READY IN THE BEDROOM, BREAKFAST WAS READY FOR HIM ON THE TABLE, IT’S UNFORTUNATE THAT THE LOVE ENDED WITHOUT NOTICE.
THAT’S THE ONLY TIME VIOLENCE APPEARED, HIS ATTENTION WAS DIVERTED AND I FELT LEFT ALONE, SO A FRIEND OF MINE GAVE ME ALCOHOL AND I CAME HOME DRUNK .
THAT’S WHEN JA SDA BEAT THE HELL OUT OF ME, BEING A NYARKADERA & INFLUENCE OF ALCOHOL, I BROKE ALL THE WINDOWS WITH MY HANDS.’
Akothee says that was the first time violence was witnessed in her happy marriage.
‘I WAS READY TO DIE, SINCE I LOVED JARED SOO MUCH AND I DIDN’T AND NEVER WANTED TO LET GO, SO THE FAKE FRIENDS EVEN MADE MY BREAK UP.
JARED KNOWS NO VIOLENCE, IT WAS TRIGGERED BY CONFUSION, I HAD NEVER TOLD MY CHILDREN THIS.
I WAS WAITING FOR THE RIGHT TIME TO TELL THEM WHY VIOLENCE EMERGED AFTER LIVING PEACEFULLY FOR 10 SOLID YEARS WITH THEIR FATHER, AMIDST THE STRUGGLE .
SOME OF MY FRIENDS, CHEATED AND MISLEAD ME, ONE OF THEM WHO USED TO CHEAT ON HER HUSBAND, LIED TO ME TO SAVE HER NUMBER AS IF SHE IS MY BOYFRIEND.
SO, SHE WAS TO CALL ME MIDNIGHT AND MAKE JARED JEALOUS, ON THE OTHER HAND SHE ALERTED JARED TOO, THAT I HAVE A BOYFRIEND WHO CALLS AT MIDNIGHT.’
Akothee added that she wishes she had left instead of putting her kids through so much trouble.
‘BE CAREFUL WITH WOMEN. WHEN MY FAKE BOYFRIEND CALLED, I WENT TO THE BATHROOM TO TRIGGER THE FIRE , LOL WHAT A FIGHT.
WE FOUGHT OVER THIS PHONE AND I EVEN MADE SURE I CHEWED THE SIM CARD. OOH SHIT, POOR ME.
HOW COULD I COMPETE WITH A MAN, SO SIMPLY BECAUSE HE WAS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE, MADE ME ALMOST LOSE MY LIFE!
WHY DIN’T I JUST PACK AND LEAVE INSTEAD OF PUTTING MY KIDS THROUGH THIS MESS?YES I COULD NOT PACK AND LEAVE. I BELIEVED MARRIAGE MUST WORK, I HAD FEAR OF UNKNOWN.
I WAS BROKE AND BROKEN, I HAD NOTHING OTHER THAN MY FORM FOUR CERTIFICATES.
REMEMBER JARED TOOK ME BACK TO SCHOOL AND MADE SURE I CLEARED MY FORM FOUR, SINCE HE IS THE ONE WHO MADE ME BREAK OUT OF SCHOOL.
I WAS CARRYING HIS PREGNANCY VESHA AWUOR OKELLO.’
Despite the divorce Akothee said that Jared was a good husband.
‘JARED WAS A HUSBAND AND A HALF THAT EVERY WOMAN WOULD LOVE TO HAVE.
GIVE CREDIT WHERE ITS DUE. IT WAS JUST NOT MEANT TO BE, WE WERE YOUNG SO WE STILL HAVE TIME TO FIND OUT REAL LOVE.
NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER ,YOU NEVER KNOW THE CONTENT.I WISH MY FAMILY ALL THE BEST IN LIFE INCLUDING MY JARED, THE MAN WHO BROKE MY VIRGINITY. I STILL LOVE AND RESPECT YOU.’