Iconic music producer Tedd Josiah has opened up about what lead to his first marriage breaking up.
In a very candid interview with Grace Msalame on her show, Unscripted With Grace Tedd revealed that he did not love his wife the way she needed to be loved.
That is a hard truth to put out there. Especially since the kids he bore with the first wife are now teenagers and they will hear that on TV.
Anyhow, Tedd told Grace,
“I WAS IN A SPACE WHERE I WASN’T READY TO BE A FAMILY MAN. I WAS BREAKING PEOPLE MORE THAN I WAS BUILDING THEM AND EVERYTHING THAT I HAD BUILT WAS FALSE. YOU KNOW HOW YOU GROW UP AND YOU ARE TOLD YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO GET MARRIED AND LIVE A CERTAIN WAY. I WAS JUST TICKING BOXES AND THEN I REALISED I DON’T EVEN LOVE THIS PERSON.”
The lack of connection between then was bad enough. When the post election violence of 2007/2008 saw him repatriate to the UK for fear of his life, the marriage took a serious beating.
He left his young family and by the time he reconnected with his children they were all grown and were now teenagers.
“I REALISED I WANTED A SECOND CHANCE, I REALLY WANTED IT. NOW WE HAVE A BOND WITH MY KIDS, ALL THREE OF THEM. I LOVE THEM TO BITS. THEY SPEND A LOT OF TIME WITH ME AT HOME BUT BECAUSE THEY ARE IN THEIR TEENS, I ISOLATE THEM FROM SOCIAL MEDIA BECAUSE IT CAN GET A BIT ROUGH,” HE SAID.
He is now working at catching up with his children and raising his daughter from his second marriage to Regina Katar.